By: Dian Aprianti
Have you ever experienced something similar where you want a wish or dream for your future but are strongly constrained by your parent’s wishes?
Yes, one of you may have experienced something like that. Indeed, there is nothing wrong with parents who direct their children to do good things. The word filial piety becomes a word that is embedded in a child’s mind, as well as a child’s obligation, which must always be obeyed for what the parents want.
It becomes a dilemma in the end when the dream that we have planned in such a way is contrary to the wishes of the parents. In the end, the choice cannot be rejected. Some live it as a form of obedience to their parents and want to make their parents happy and live it sincerely, regardless of whether, in the end, it will be in accordance with expectations or not.
However, on the other hand, something that cannot be overlooked is when a child goes through his days forcedly, such as taking a study that is none other than his choice but the choice of his parents. They live empty, just coming to class to fulfil their obligations as students, sitting, even joking and playing with their gadgets, not listening, and seeming not to care whether they are able to pass the lesson or not.
Based on the results of observation and scrutiny, many of them chose their majors because of their parents’ wishes. They said they wanted to realize other dreams for the future but were not necessarily supported by their parents. Some said that because their parents’ background was A, their children must also follow and become A. What they said was truly from the bottom of their hearts because they were the ones who lived their days. Moreover, they had to continue to live every day to study, whether forced or not, whether they liked it or not.
This phenomenon may have been happening since our ancestors existed. The thing we have to change is our mindset, which must be changed in how parents always support their children to be able to realize their desires as long as they are positive and in accordance with the abilities that can be attempted. Then, change the mindset where the background of the parents is the biggest reason for a child also to choose the same background.
Therefore, be a wise parent in determining future choices for a child, pay attention to their mental health, and be a dutiful child by considering everything you want for your future without hurting your parents.
